Tuesday, July 09, 2013

A Not So Novel Concept

A Picture Perfect Columbine. My most beloved garden flower.
One would think...
With all of the stunningly beautiful flowers ablaze in my summer garden...

Six Hills Giant Catmint.
That I would be blogging and bragging up a storm.

I do go out there, early in the morning, and enjoy their beauty. But, not like I used to. Not with a camera in my hand.

Wild Columbines.
 I guess it's become a safe haven that I'm less interested in sharing. Not sure what that's all about. This sudden ~ and near constant ~ need for silence, solitude.

Alone with the delightful chatter of songbirds, my one pesky squirrel and the drip, drip, drip of a hanging-on-by-a-thread broken water fountain. :)

Too much work. Not enough joy. I have been hating life.

Resentful of anyone asking me to add anything to this already over-burdened schedule. (I have no one to finger but myself for this mess, I'm just terrible when it comes to saying no.)

Maltese Cross.
While I was out there pulling weeds this morning, I came up with a Not So Novel Concept.

John Cabot Roses.
Live life instead of juggle it. 

Say 'no' once in awhile. Hell, say no every day. It's not like people ever reciprocate all those favors you do for them. Why should I feel inclined to bend over backwards?

Valerian (pink) and Marguerite (yellow.)
When I get done with this post, I am planning to call my most hated client and say something I've wanted to say for a good, long time:

"Hey, guess what! We're done."

Live on less. Enjoy life more. Whaddyathink? (PS: Yes, I did the math, I can still pay my bills.)



ProfessorRoush said...

Good for you, Kate. I've found the same thing in the last year...having an empty nest was part of the change, leaving a role as supervisor for a group of people that God couldn't satisfy was another.

And bad clients are not worth the stress they cause at any amount of money. They can be replaced with better clients.

Anonymous said...

I'm proud of you for learning 'your' say No. Not only no, but hell no. It's a right of passage for most and it gets easier and easier when you start to enjoy your time.. When you look back at something you normally would have said yes too, but this time you didn't, you said NO, it will make all the no's to come that much easier to say.
Good luck,

Rilly said...

I decided a long time ago that it wasn't beneficial to my health to surround myself with people who caused me undue stress....whether it be friend or relative. "NO" became my favorite word. When you become too stressed to enjoy that wonderful garden then it's time to "Just say NO". Power to you. <3

Bonnie K said...

Life is what you make it. I have learned do what I want to do. Sometimes you have to do things you dislike, but not every time you are asked.

Kim Mattingly said...

Good for you! Best of luck with the break up. (And thanks for sharing your garden with us.) :-)

Snowcatcher said...

I'm finally learning to say no, and I congratulate you for reaching that stage. You are absolutely right; life is meant to be lived, not dreaded. And I enjoy the time you spend in your garden because your photos make me drool!

Rose said...

Good for you, Kate! "No" is a word that wasn't in my vocabulary for a long time, but I learned it's a very important word for your sanity and well-being. I'm trying to let go of "should" and "ought" right now:) Life's too short to spend it on a miserable client or anyone else for that matter. Enjoy your solitude, those lovely columbines, and your pesky squirrel--I bet he's actually cute:)

Mac_fromAustralia said...

I'm so sorry to read you have been feeling down. Good on you for dealing with the parts of your life that are dragging you down. Very best wishes for the future!

Aaron Dalton said...

Live life. Enjoy it. Live simply.

I say "Amen." :)

Janie said...

If it'll make you happier with life (and still pay the bills), I say it's a great plan.

Melospiza said...

Yay! For dropping hated clients, that is. Also for having such beautiful flowers - whether you want to share the or not. :)